Bundle Of Chaos

Earlier this week, Michelle and I had our first ultrasound appointment to take a gander at Dos. The tech was able to take all the measurements and pictures just fine. After getting all this stuff out of the way, she asked if we wanted to know the sex of the baby. Michelle and I answered yes in unison. Apparently, the baby found it significantly more comfortable floating around with its legs crossed.  The tech tried a couple things to get the baby to move, but Dos was content hanging out where it was.  Avery did a similar thing at his ultrasound. At his appointment, Avery had his legs crossed for the entire thing. Just as the tech was saying she was not going to be able to determine, Avery went spread eagle.

At this point, I’m not sure I would be able to survive in suspense until March. I’m hoping that the doctor will order another ultrasound. If this doesn’t happen, we may consider a elective ultrasound.

With the Dos on the way and having an abundance of existing baby stuff from Aves, there isn’t much that we need for a second baby. The only thing we are definitely going to need is a two kid stroller. Within a day or two of finding out about Dos, Michelle and I had started our research on the dual strollers. When ever we were out around town, we would be scoping out all of the two kid strollers.

As of right now we will probably be going with the Sit-N-Stand from Baby Trend. As the name implies, he can sit down on a little bench or he can stand. We went out to Babies R Us to test it out for a test drive. Avery loved standing on the platform and getting pushed. We had a little trouble getting him off after making a couple circuits of the stroller area. We’ll be adding this to our Christmas list unless some new cutting edge stroller technology comes out in the next few months.

We are going to make the announcement about Dos this weekend. I’m excited but also a little apprehensive to see how everyone receives the information.

In the logistics side there is a lot that needs to get done before Dos shows up. Aves is going to move downstairs to the third bedroom. We’ve been using this room as a dumping ground for random stuff since we moved in. Last weekend we slowly started going through and donating or throwing out the stuff that we don’t need. I got rid of almost all of my books. The only ones I kept were ones that I had autographed. This is a big step because I’ve always been been a pack rat when its come to my books. We moved some furniture but still have tubs and tubs of baby clothing. I’m not sure what we are going to do if Dos ends up being a girl because I think we have close to 15 Rubbermaid tubs of boy clothes.  Atleast we’ve started the process, but I’m starting class next week so time is going to be tight for the next 14 weeks.

Things got a little more real today. The first doctor visit occurred today and the doc confirmed the due date as March 19. It’s getting harder and harder to keep things under wraps. It seems lately at work the baby talk and question about number 2 has come up often. I don’t think it’s a case of me subconsciously talking about it because I’m making a conscious effort not to discuss it.

 I think I had M convinced to share the news last weekend but we didn’t have the family get togethers that we need to quickly disseminate the info.  We want to tell both sides of the family the same weekend and my in-law siblings are on their honeymoon next weekend so we are going to wait until our orginal plan of Labor Day weekend.

I know the first question from my side will be the due date. I’m kind of scared to share the actual date because I’m not sure how everyone will feel about Dos and J/C’s second being so close. The second question will be why did we wait so long to share the news. It’s been hard to be silent but we just wanted for our first doctor appointment before we started sharing. The doctor has gone on some crazy reduced schedule. She was on vacation for a couple weeks and today was the first appointment she had open. M made the next couple appointments and found out the doctor only work three days a week and one of those was a half day.  (I need to figure out how to get that schedule.) So this has made the appointments a little more difficult to schedule this time around. I wasn’t able to make it today but hope to make it to the future ones.

Last weekend was a tough weekend. We had Mike and Angie’s wedding so the whole weekend was pack full of family and events. Michelle was only asked a couple times by relatives when number two was going to be coming. One cousin said he had heard a rumor that she was pregnant. I think he was just fishing for information. I think it helped with all the activities and focus on the happy couple that I didn’t think about it.

We have our first doctor’s appointment next Monday so we should have a due date soon. Based on some calculator Michelle found online the due date is going to be around March 19. My brother’s second kid is due on the 27, so the two cousins are a lot closer than I had initially thought. It’ll be crazy having two kids so close together.

The shirt that we are using to tell everyone got delivered last week. We are waiting until Labor Day weekend to share the news. I think my parent’s are going surprised if not overwhelmed by that doubling of the grandchildren in March. My in-laws are going to be excited. Wrestling is very common with Avery, but the cuddling is missed.

My brother sent me a link to a youtube video over the weekend. It was a video of pictures put to music of my nephew Riley. I assumed that he was just messing around with his new Mac and sent the video because I’ve complained about the lack of photos of Riley. This changed in the last 10 seconds of the video when the test appeared on the screen saying “From the proud parents who brought you M2…….M3 March 2009″. The entire M2, M3 thing is a programmer thing. (Avery is technically M1).

It was hard not to call and share our news with them also. Since we are waiting until Labor Day to share our news, it is going to be a tough couple of weeks. Come March, it’s going to be a crazy time in the Motylinski households. Riles and Aves will be two and a half and almost three, respectively, when the siblings arrive. I have a vision of the older kids running around getting into a bunch of trouble as the new siblings are being admired by everyone. It’ll be interesting to hear what the official due dates are. Our first doctor visit isn’t until the 18th of August and I think J and C have theirs this week. How both of these happened at the same time it wouldn’t surprise me if it turns out to be a race to the finish between Dos and M3.

At least we have unique names for the two babies.

I have been able successfully keep the secret so far. It seems that the subject has come up often in conversation. At work today, the discussion of kids and babies came up. The two other fathers in the discussion had drastically different ideas of being a parent. Both said that they are done after one. Then they asked me if we were having anymore. I wanted to share the great knews, but I used my standard line, “We aren’t discussing it until I’m done with school.”
I was excited with Avery, but I also had a healthy helping of terrror. I didn’t know what to expect. This time around I feel like I know what I’m in for so all I’m feeling is the excitement. I think I have a goo grasp on the baby stuff so what is there to fear? I do recognize that Avery was a even keeled kid so I don’t know what to do if Dos is high maintenance. I saw a little glipse of a challenging baby in my nephew but I only watch and listened for asa small amount of time. 24 hours a day is long time to have an angry baby. But seeing Riley know it’s hard to remember the times he was unhappy. I figure if Dos is angry, my brother will have a good list of things they tried and what worked.
Hopefully, I won’t have to ask his advice.

I got a little glipse of what Michelle and I are in for with number two. It happened at a brunch at my parents house. We were halfway through eating so Avery decided that he was done eating. Riley had the same feeling as Avery. Michelle was positioned between the boys and was doing a wonderful job of keeping the boys from knocking over their glasses of milk.
This made me realize that I’m going to have to step-up my game. Michelle has been so great with Aves that she would pick up my slack. With two it is going to be even harder.
I do worry how Aves will deal no longer being the center of attention. I do think he is going to be a awesome big brother. Lately, he has been waking up in the morning and immediately looking for Lily. He runs around the house until he finds her. When he does, he screams, “LILY!!” and gives her a giant hug. He also is so caring an concerned with the feelings of others. This may lead to some unhappy times when number two is crying.
We saw both sets of grandparents yesterday and it was hard not to share our news. I can’t wait until I can share the exciting news.

Michelle and I found out this morning that we expecting baby number two. It hasn’t sunk in what this means for us and our family. All I’m feeling is excitement and an overabundance of joy. I’m at a loss at what I’m supposed to do right now. One thing I know I’m going to have to do is keep this under wraps for longer time than we did with Avery. We found out about Ave’s after Michelle was pretty far along. As a result we only had to keep the secret for a week or two. This time she is only a month along and this is at the longest. We haven’t been to the doctor yet so I’m not sure how they figure out dates. It’s going to be tough to keep quiet, but it should give us some time to figure out how we are going to tell our families. We have a couple ideas but like I said we have some time.

I figure I’d do what I usally do when I’m feeling overwhelmed; that would be to start a blog. I’m going to keep things hidden until we are telling people. I’ll then go back and make the posts public so people can see the progression from the beginning. As always, I’ll try to post regularly, but history has proven this isn’t always my strong suit.